Relationship : Power sharing

RelationShip:Power-sharing

    To understand the dynamics of the couple, let's compare it to a day. A day is made up of a day and a night, the duration of which varies with the seasons. The day is full of light and activity. The night is filled with darkness and rest. At dawn and at dusk, day and night meet. These two periods are filled with harmony and peace: it is neither day nor night; he doesn't sell; the birds no longer sing; time stands still. As we can see, the day and the night complement each other to form the day, as the Yin and the Yang do to constitute the Tao.

    Man has unique faculties and a way of looking at life and the couple; women have unique faculties and their way of looking at life and the couple. The woman can fulfill functions (pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding, seduction, relational concerns, receptivity, capacity for symbiotic relationship) that the man cannot fulfill, or even understand. Man has capacities (physical strength, material creativity, competitive spirit, intrusiveness, hunter's instinct, need for independence) that women cannot match or even understand. Man cannot be asked to perform female duties and vice versa, just as night cannot be asked to perform daily duties and vice versa. 

    We can only ask the two to complement each other to form a whole. The woman cannot ask the man to vibrate symbiotically with her as she can do with her fetus; men cannot expect their wives to "get involved" in their activities as they can experience with friends or associates. These two expectations are illusions among many others.

    In the sharing of power, one and the other, after having taken cognizance of the individual peculiarities of this man and this woman, agree to use these peculiarities, different and sometimes contradictory, to form their couple. Both no longer seek to transform the other to meet their own expectations; both no longer accuse the other of being responsible for the frustration of his adolescent illusions in front of the couple.

    The two become aware that they are lovers and intimate enemies (there will always be disputes even in the happiest couples), but the two now focus on intimacy and the personal contribution, albeit different, of each in this unique couple. The two exploit the qualities of the other for the benefit of the couple (and the family). The two share the power they are now transferring to the couple, realizing that only the couple, and not the other, can meet each other's needs.